Positive Parenting

Positive Parenting

You must have often wondered if you are being a good parent to your child. Parenting is a tough subject yes, and this is a question which haunts most parents when their parenting ways slips from their hands. Every parent must have gone through a phase when in spite of their best efforts they still find themselves amidst unruly kids and their discouraging behaviors. But then, worries only add to more worries and it is wise to be positive and have a ‘never give up’ attitude. This is what is called positive parenting.

Why?

Positive parenting is the right way to handle your kid because only then can your children inherit the positive ways of living from you. Positive always attracts positive and children always look up to and learn from their parents. So, if you can set an example for them with your positive behavior, it will influence their lifestyle too. It is your ways that will expose your role as a good parent and you need to make your child feel that he/she is also an important person. Shouting and angering are negative illustrations of parenting and therefore you should avoid them.

Ways

Positive parenting encourages the positive attitude in your child and develops their social skills in a more practical and positive way. These are some of the ways you can adopt to teach your child the right ways in life:

Discipline: Every parent must understand that discipline doesn’t come with punishment. Instructing the child in right decision making and teaching them to control their actions and make healthier decisions, is how discipline builds up. Moments: Quality of the time and not the quantity of time is important when it comes to spending moments with your child. This is the time when you can come really close to your child, help in their homework, play with them, share their thoughts and show your love and affection. This boosts up a child’s self esteem.

Firmness: Be firm in monitoring your kids but not in an uncaring, rude way. Rather, let them know you are true to your words and how much you care for them.

Actions: Never discourage your child if he or she fails in a task. Instead encourage them and build up their spirit. Encourage them to learn from their mistakes.

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Leslie Kuerbitz has written a short book to help families create warm, loving environments. The book models positive parenting techniques for parents, while teaching children that it is ok to make mistakes.

Where to get help with your Parenting Skill?

We are all born with some parenting skill; qualities such as patience, ability to love, and humour, but other skills need to be learned. Parents do not know how to react to situations until they are faced with them and are on a constant learning curve.

 

The first thing to remember is to never be afraid to ask for advice. Whatever the situation you are trying to deal with, someone else has been through it before you. Your family and your friends are a great source of advice and information, as they may have developed a particular parenting skill that you haven’t needed to find yet.

 

Books and the internet are also a great source of information. A quick look at online booksellers or internet sites shows a massive amount of advice available. It is a good idea to double check parenting skill advice you find on the internet though as it obviously isn’t checked or regulated.

 

Thirdly, your doctor, health visitor, midwife and nurses are available to help you. If you are seriously worried about a health or behavioural problem with your child they are the best people to ask. There are lots of facilities available to help, such as child psychologists, educational psychologists, and in some cases of behavioural problems medications can even be prescribed to help control the symptoms. Do not be worried about wasting the health professionals’ time – you aren’t wasting their time at all, and they are happy to help. Parenting skill isn’t something you have to learn on your own.

 

Another way to get help with your parenting skill is to go to classes. Many classes and programs are available, either dealing with specific issues or general skills. Your local surgery or social services should be able to provide you with details of these. If you are having serious problems then social services will also be able to give you help. Asking social services doesn’t mean they are going to take your children from you so please don’t be afraid of asking them for help when you need it.

 

Whatever issues you have with parenting skill, whether you simply need reassurance, or whether you need serious help, you are not on your own. Millions have had similar problems before you and millions will have the same issues in the future. By using the resources you have available to you, you will give your children the benefit of the best information and parenting skill possible.

 

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The author is a successful marketing executive and a mother of two boys. She has had a rough ride in the past two years and has successfully saved her family from the brink of disaster by working on her parenting techniques. You can access her free report “New Parenting Style” or buy her book “Solving Teenage Problems” on http://www.teenageproblems.newparentingstyle.com or check your “Parent Stress Intensity Quotient” for free on http://www.stressmanagement.newparentingstyle.com.

Divorce is not the end of Parenting

Divorce is a tragic earth-shattering end to a family. If there are children involved, the tragedy becomes significantly worse.

The children’s thoughts may become very self-destructive. The children might constantly ask themselves the following:

Did I do something wrong? What can I do to fix this problem? Do I have to side with one of my parents? If one of my parents leave, do I still have a mother and a father?

Their attitudes and demeanor are significantly altered practically over night. Some signs are as follows:

Acting upset and loosing interest in activities. Decreased verbal communication. Acting out in school. They may be physically abusive to other students, or be less focused in their studies. General overall disassociation.

Some parents choose to use their children against the other parent. By putting the child in this situation, the already stressful situation becomes impossible for the child to cope. This child abuse may be due to a parent’s inferiority complex.

Unfortunately, the person who is hurt the most is the child. Parental personal feelings for each other must be placed aside. If there is an issue with custody, a decision must be made in the best decision for the child. As in all families, each parent has his or her strengths and weaknesses. For example, one may be good at discipline, where the other may have a knack for comforting the child. Parents must work together and communicate with each other in order to fully understood and react to the big picture. If the child has divided time between the parents, this communication between parents as stated, will allow each parent to understand the whole situation and not just a portion of the situation. It is still very possible to achieve a happy family atmosphere for the child while divorced.

The courts already have control of numerous aspects of our lives as it is. It is suggested that the parents arrange custody on your own. That said, if one of the parents is overly possessive or abusive, then something should be done.

Holidays, birthdays, and other special occasions should be divided equally in order to benefit all parties involved.

The two of you once shared the most important personal aspects of your lives with each other. You have created a child. The most spectacular process of the universe is creation. Come together to nurture your children.

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William’s love for writing is second only to his love for his son. William has published essays, fiction, non-fiction, short storys, and more…

Top 5 Effective Parenting Skills

Effective parenting skills are very important to learn because they are the basis of your parenting style, something your child can rely on and most of all a way for him to understand the rules you set up and to be reassured about the love you have for him. Too many parents believe it’s up to their kids to change the way they behave but that is something useless to expect from a child. A good child’s behavior is only a direct consequence of his parents’ behavior. You need to keep that in mind to measure how much you’re in control of the situation right now, or could be.

Being a good parent simply means giving to our children all the love we have and all the values and tools to make them become responsible, sensitive, tolerant adults able to express their feelings, resolve problems. We can’t react impulsively to really teach something to our children. That’s why the 5 following effective parenting skills will help you.

1. Be a role model for your child. Remember he imitates you, discover the world and precisely the adult world through your own behaviour. Be the adult you want your child to become.

2. Always remain calm. You teach nothing if you yell at your child. Never react impulsively in front of your child. Contain your outbursts. Feeling angry is normal. Cool down in another room if you need. Keep your voice down but speak with a firm tone when needed. No need to scream.

3. Always explain the consequences of his bad behaviour to your child. Tell him what you say no to. Reward his good behaviour. Often, children keep having a bad behaviour because they don’t understand. When they do, they can choose how to behave by knowing what will be the consequence, how you will react, what they’ll get out of it. This is one of the most effective parenting skills in the long run. Start now.

4. Encourage your child to build his self-esteem. Tell him he’s capable of doing things but show that making mistakes is ok. Don’t seek perfection. Pay attention to what he does, what is difficult for him, notice when he makes an effort. Don’t do things for him. Let him try.

5. Tell and show your unconditional love for your child. Always express that you love him no matter what. Some of his behaviours are not acceptable, that’s why you punish them, but those punishments never diminish your love for him. Kiss and hug your child and say “I love you”. It’s very important.

The effective parenting skills explained in this article are meant to make you a stronger parent, more confident and more aware of the impact you can have on your child and of all the things you can (and have) to teach him. Still, in certain situations, the basis is already difficult, and building something on it can seem more complicated. I’m thinking of children with strong defiant attitude, with anchored habits that prevent dialogue and communication to have its place in the family.

But nothing is impossible, nothing is a fatality and it’s never too late to act upon a difficult situation. That’s why parenting methods exist, and I know what I’m talking about as I applied one with my daughter. Later, I built a website with some parents where we select and review the programs that were effective with our kids. They give so much help and support that everything can be overcome. No doubt about it. The link to our reviews website is in my bio if it interests some of you.

Laura Kaine is the mother of June (10) and Jack (4). She personally helped many parents and shares her knowledge online as an expert parenting writer. After putting an end to her daughter’s defiant behavior thanks to a parenting program, she convinced other parents to gather their experiences and review together different parenting methods that worked for them. The website they created together is www.YourParentingHelp.com.

Are You A Single Father Parenting Your Child ? 6 Great Tips For You !

Building a deep relationship with your little one without his mom by your side is entirely achievable. Every single father parenting his child might be somewhat worrying he’s not going to be capable to be authoritarian enough or loving enough.

There’s a first crucial advice I would give to any single father parenting his child, which is :

1.    Never try to be the hero. Just be the dad your kid can really rely on and discuss with. Tell him things about your childhood, show compassion regarding what he feels as a child. It’ll help building up the relationship with him.

Being a single father parenting your little one takes a lot and the 5 advices below will help you see what you can do:

2.    Do not lie to your kid. He needs to feel trusted. Be truthful and don’t make any promises you know you will not keep.

3.    Pay attention to your words and behavior. Be the adult you want your little one to become. Do not forget youngsters imitate parents. A single father parenting his child needs to be even more aware of the image he gives back to his child.

4.   Encourage good behaviors. Help your kid having a good attitude with you by seeing what it may bring to his life. Tell him you’re proud and pleased when he reacts that way. Put words on what you feel, this will show your kid how he can express his own feelings to you.

5.    Never be upset when your kid has a bad behavior. It’s pointless and doesn’t teach emotional self-control. Make the rules very clear. Have a firm tone of voice. Don’t shout, do not spank. Just communicate your disappointment. It’ll have a much better effect on your little one. If you really need to punish, do so but clarify what actions you punish and that you love him no matter what.

6.    Listen to your little one and make eye contact when he talks. Tell him you’re happy he shares things with you. Express interest in his life and what he discovers. Ask him some questions. You will be a part of his life much more like that. Play with your kid ! Be the cowboy, the baby, the policeman of your child’s imaginary town. It is particularly important.

I do hope that, as a single father parenting your child and in need of assistance, you’ll apply these advices and witness good results. Maybe you will not, I’m not declaring every situations are identical and I know it can in some cases be far more complicated. In many situations, a parenting method can solve things by providing a guideline, valuable communication tools and full support to parents. Some of them even focus on single parenting.

If you’re interested, I set up a website with other parents after we made a selection of efficient parenting programs and reviewed them. The link to our website is in my bio. I know it can change things. Good luck !

Laura Kaine is the mother of June (10) and Jack (4). She personally helped many parents and shares her knowledge online as an expert parenting writer. After putting an end to her daughter’s defiant behavior thanks to a parenting program, she convinced other parents to gather their experiences and review together different parenting methods that worked for them. The website they created together is www.YourParentingHelp.com.

Parenting Help To Protect Children—When Parents Fail—Explanation Of A Way To Solve The Problem

The Premise
Many instances exist in our society where children are hurt because of the lack of parental protection or control. Often, it seems obvious to us, as rape victims and sexual abuse survivors, that with more parental involvement that those tragic events may have been avoided completely. We may ask, “Why didn’t my parent or guardian protect me?” The answer may lie in the fact that a pattern of abuse can follow from generation to generation, affecting our parent’s actions. Furthermore, how does one stop the cycle?

My Personal Experience
“What’s going on here? Are you OK? Why are you out here by yourself?”

“I was throwing my paper route with my sister, but a man asked me to help him find his cat. And, oh my God, he got me!” My crying intensified for a moment. “Now he is going to try and get my sister. I have to warn her!”

“Where were your parents? Don’t they go out with you when you throw papers?”

I never liked going out alone on Sunday morning, but I never thought it was wrong of my parents to let us go by ourselves. I figured they would not let us do anything that could possibly harm us. They had to love us enough to protect us. Now it seemed this officer was questioning their judgment.

I sheepishly answered, “No, they are home asleep.” I was relieved to see we were stopping, which meant the probing questions would stop.

As soon as the police could, however, they asked my mom to explain. “Ma’am, can you tell us why Mary and Cindy were out throwing papers by themselves so early in the morning?”

My mom’s defenses shot up quickly. “Those two little boogers, they always left the house on their own, without waking us. I work hard and sleep soundly. I did not hear them go out. My husband and I told them before to get us up, but they never did. I never thought anything like this could happen.”

My mom’s mind was racing. The thought of a man raping her child brought forward ugly memories from her past. She fought to hold back her tears. She would not permit herself to shed a single drop. Her paternal grandfather had always fondled her whenever he got the chance. As far as my mom knew, he also ‘messed with’ one of her two older sisters, but that sister was ornery and much braver than my mom had been. The sister was better at fending him off.

My mom had never told anyone about her encounters as a small child with her paternal grandfather, not even her parents or her husband. When shown pictures of him, she just commented, “I never liked going to his house.”

I found out the ugly truth when, as an adult, I confronted her about my rape and her lack of parental protection. She broke down, confiding in me that she, too, had experience with inappropriate sexual behavior. My mother relayed the story of her grandfather and his escapades. She said she was only about five or six when the first incident with him happened. I asked her why she did not tell her parents. Her answer: “I was too ashamed.” Her thinking directly influenced the rest of her actions on the day of my rape.

Too Ashamed
As shown in my own personal account, my mom had experience of inappropriate sexual behavior that was unbeknownst to me as a child. She never discussed it because she ‘was ashamed.’ But why would she be ashamed? She did nothing wrong. She, like me, was just a child when her ghastly experience occurred.

To feel ashamed, one must consider his or her self unworthy. The very definition of shame validates this, as Webster’s dictionary uses the word ‘degrade’ to characterize the word. Therefore, to feel shame and guilt, one must feel inferior. However, where might you get the concept that you are either inferior or superior to someone else?

The Key
How many of you think that God lives in heaven? Do you think that heaven is outside of you? Consider the idea that the spirit of God is everywhere. If the spirit of God is everywhere, doesn’t that include you and me?

Believing that God is outside of you can result in feelings of inferiority or superiority. Why?  If you believe you are separate from the spirit, you are also allowing a belief that you can be separate from others. Considering the statement from a spiritual teacher named Charles Crooks, “We are all part of the whole and not separate” can offer a more beneficial way to look at our connection to the spirit, and to others. Only when you realize that you are part of the whole spirit of God, and therefore, part of others can you comprehend that you are not separate and therefore, inferiority is not possible.

Stop the Shame
Might this be a valid way to stop the cycle of abuse? Stop the shame and you can stop the cycle. If parents are not ashamed, it is more likely that they will take appropriate actions to protect their children. Furthermore, each parent that protects a child may be stopping one more cycle of abuse. Is this not worth a try?

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Cindy L. Herb, author of Awakening the Spirit: The Open Wide Like a Floozy Chronicles, specializes in Mind, Body, and Spirit healing, and Physical/Sexual Abuse Recovery. As an inspirational speaker, Cindy L. Herb offers others an alternative approach to healing from any trauma through a simple, proven process. To download your FREE report, Some Helpful Steps to Healing, please visit the author’s website at http://www.cherbchronicles.com. You can also follow cherbchronicles on Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/cherbchronicles. In addition, you can request Cindy L. Herb as a friend on Facebook, LinkedIn or YouTube.

Parenting Teens

Teenage development is perhaps the most difficult part for children. Parents find it hard to play their role in this stage of development of their children. Teens want to try many things. They wanted to experiment on things that catched their curious minds. Teens also want to know their identity as a person. They feel guilt, insecure, fear, excitement, and hope as they pass this stage of human development. In that sense, parenting teens is an issue that must be dealt with properly.

Parenting teens nowadays is more difficult than in past years because of far-reaching technological and sociological changes that have occurred. Teenagers have always been exposed to activities, data, and individuals that challenge their families’ standards and values-but never so much as recently. Parents whose own teenage years do not seem so very long ago are finding their children growing up in a changed world. These changes have brought great benefits to society, but problems too. Parenting teens on the other hand, is a very challenging role.

Moreover, families have not escaped the changes taking place in the rest of society. Parent-teen relationships have been dramatically affected- so much so that today’s parents are generally not capable to control their teens easily and effectively. Besides, the demanding approach that may have worked for their parents simply does not work as well as for today’s parents. Hence, parents must learn to adopt with the current ways and means by which teenagers develop in terms of psychological, social, cultural, spiritual, and physical aspects. To continue reading, you may visit My Regency ……

Tagged as resilient and versatile, I believe that facing life’s challenges is done through faith and perseverance. Problems come and go, happiness subsides, yet the cycle will never end as long as I live. There are failures that are hard to face, but rising up, believing in Him, and moving forward are always the easy ways to keep going.

The Parenting Challenges Of Discipline – Parenting Challenging Children

There are many reasons why parentiing challenging children is so difficult. One of the problems is finding ways to discipline them without feeling bad about it later. The fact is though, if you have a strong willed child and keep this attitude, it will be extremely tough on you. This makes it easy for them to walk all over and take advantage of you. You will need to find a way to discipline your challenging child immediately and take your power back.

Many people would say that all children are challenging. While this might be true to a degree, there are simply certain children out there that can really put you through a lot. One of these challenging children is more like taking care of 5 regular children. So, while yes all children can be a challenge they are not all the same.

Parenting challenging children is one tough job. Most men in the not so distant past had no idea just how difficult it really is. Now, with many power moms stepping out into the work place, fathers are learning just how hard it can be. Parenting disobedient children makes it much more than just a challenge. It can be a nightmare at times and indicate your parenting problems are out of your hands.

Please do not believe that for one second all you need is the right tools, information, and a plan in place. There is hope for you yet, believe me. In any condition where you are under informed people will notice and take advantage. Yes, even your own kids. They will see this as wriggle room for them to get away with misbehaving. They will walk all over you and that is just the nature of human behavior.

The faster you figure out this truth the easier it will be for you to discipline your defiant child and remain friendly too. You can do this. Regardless of how difficult and challenging you think your child is, with the right tools you will quickly learn it can be really easy. Your defiant child actually wants to behave deep down inside. The trouble is that the child has been without boundaries for too long and buried that feeling deep.

The problem most parents face is they themselves find themselves emotionally distraught with how badly their children misbehave. They react in place of counteract. You will need to be prepared and things will be completely different. The parenting will become much easier and the relationship between you and your child will be one of mutual respect and love.

Another one of the main problems that parents of disobedient children have is that of emotional response. They react badly to misbehavior. How can you expect your child to behave when you yourself are not expressing full control? I know it is much easier said than done. The thing is that with the right positioning and information it becomes simple. Hard to believe but it comes with a guarantee and it is more than worth it.

No matter the situation the transformation will be impressive. You can learn to discipline your defiant child with guidance and tolerance. You will become closer for the experience and grow together instead of apart.

It is important to know that parenting challenging children can have a positive outcome in the end. And that persistence really does pay off. This will lower your stress levels and enforce the bond and increase the good times you share together. The more you implement the strategies the more confident you will become.

Reduce your stress and overcome the parenting challenges while impressing those around you with just how well behaved your child will become. You can make your life much easier for you and your Challenging Child. You will be so much better off.

Everyone understands it is no easy job. Learn more today and find out the truth of how simple it can be. You can have a much easier time of Parenting Challenging Children when the outcome is positive. Once you realize that you have made a difference you will feel much better about yourself and your family.

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Paving The Way For Successful Single Parenting

Single parenting is nearly all the result of a failure on the marriage. In some case, there are some people that might find no difficulty to face a new life and bring up their children after separation. But for others find trouble to carry out for some reasons. These reasons include their different personalities, upbringing of their respective families, as well as their ways in dealing with stress caused by separation.

Even though divorce or separation possibly have an effect on  people in bringing up their children and living more life, this should discourage to accomplish the chance of living a better life. Never let separation or divorce will impede you to go on your life. Now, it is the time to find the solutions in which can enable you to conquer your fears and build a situation in which you will survive single parenting.

Keeping your mind on the basics

It is inborn to become good parent for almost parents. But the last experiences in their life will have an effect on this innate which concern for their kids and bringing up them well. These events as well obstruct them to concern the needs of their kids since it is rather hard to handle their difficulties on their own.

Although divorce or separation might truly have an effect on good parenting, there will be always solution to deal with these troubles and go on with your life. The very first thing that you should carry out is let go of the past, don’t let the past hold you back. According to expert the main concern which has to be handled by single parent is depression brought on by failed marriage. Let the past go and forget the things which are away from your control. After you have admitted this you are going to forgive yourself and get ready to be a single parent.

After that best thing to do is to put your own personal pace. Even though some other  people sometimes feel good to forget their problems easily and quickly, this isn’t always healthy according to experts since it is just a “band-aid” way out. Lots of people who meet the reality of being single parents attempt so hard to move on by drowning themselves in work. This will work but not for long-term objectives.

Finally, the one that tries so hard to struggle the challenges of single parenting gets so tired most of which result in nervous breakdown. For being an effective single parent, it’s best when you put your own pace so you won’t be tired. This may be advantageous for you since you can relax whenever you like because no one is breathing down your neck to do things you aren’t able to do.

The last, it is most suggested to always be optimistic and think one step ahead. Because you are likely to bring up your kid by yourself. It will be best to ahead so you are going to be capable to achieve goals in advance. In this way, there are many chances to do things appropriately.

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Authoritative Parenting – What Is It?

There are many different parenting styles out there and many parents strive to find the best style for them, while others go with the flow and naturally fall into different types. This article is about Authoritative parenting, an approach to parenting that seeks to set rules and guidelines that are in the best interests of their baby. Authoritative parenting is a style that provides rules and structure to a child’s life. The rules give structure without being overly strict thus allowing your child to explore, test and begin to learn acceptable behavior. This type of style also allows parents to express love as it isn’t a style that believes showing love and affection will undermine their control in the household.

Authoritative parenting makes it clear that the parent is in charge of the household but it does so without creating a rigid environment, as it believes in flexibility. This is because this style believes in creating structure but not so much that a child is scared of trying new things or scared of doing anything on their own. Instead of seeing bad behavior as a challenge to authority, parents see bad behavior as an opportunity to teach, encouraging children to see why their behavior is bad and what behaviors are more appropriate in different situations.

Those who use this approach believe that children benefit from this approach in several ways. These include having the confidence to try new things, having a desire to learn new things, having mental and emotional balance, having freedom to express and develop their character and also developing a loving respect for family and people in general. This parenting style is considered to take all the attractive qualities of other approaches and tends to eliminate approaches that are based on fear or negative factors.

Authoritative parenting has some pros and cons to it. This style can be difficult to maintain if a child is particularly difficult or willful. It requires a great deal of patience to be ale to maintain and adds an additional responsibility on to parents. This approach also requires periodic reviews, as one needs to factor in the growth, development and change in needs of a child. Despite these, authoritative parenting can give children the power and freedom to ask questions and voice opinions. Children also know exactly what is expected of them and responsibilities are catered to their age and development. This is a style that tries to put your child’s development first.

Marie enjoys writing about various subjects around parenting. As a mother herself she knows how hard it can be to go with instinct and encourages it in others. Some of her sites include baby cot beds and baby sling carrier.